Diabolik Lovers & the Poisonous Provocation of Rape Culture – Anime Review

Diabolik Lovers (ディアボリックラヴァーズ) season one is the 2013 anime adaptation of the Japanese visual novel of the same name. It’s a shōjo, reverse harem, supernatural, horror series. The video game was developed by Rejet and published by Idea Factory. The anime was produced by Zexcs with direction from Shinobu Tagashira. There are twelve total episodes, each one spanning approximately twelve to thirteen minutes in length.

I originally watched the show while it was simulcasting during the Autumn 2013 anime season. The series must have been pretty humdrum because I didn’t recall much of it all. In September, I decided to re-watch the series with the intention of doing episodic reviews. I figured since the episodes were small, it would be a good way for me to acquaint myself with this specific type of anime reviewing. Unfortunately, I ended up choosing something that is by far one of the absolute worst fucking things I have ever seen in my life. Suffice to say… those episode musings did not survive until the end.

Diabolik Lovers follows a young girl named Yui who moves into a gloomy castle while her priestly father goes overseas for work. Upon arriving, she is immediately assaulted by one of the adolescent male occupants of the castle. Shortly afterwards another five guys or so arrive, all of them brothers, who turn out to be vampires. The longer that Yui stays at the castle, the more she uncovers about these boys and the real reasons behind why she was essentially dumped in such a place.

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** Please note that this review will be discussing the topic of sexual and physical abuse and rape. If any of these things are sensitive subject matters for you, you may want to avoid reading this article. Please, read at your own discretion. Thank you. **

I can be the first one to admit that I love vampires. With the exception of Twilight and True Blood, which I loathe passionately, I tend to really enjoy dark, twisted stories about these supernatural monsters. While I prefer ones that inherently more horrific, depicting vamps for the vile and dangerous beings that they are (The Strain, I Am Legend, etc.), I can appreciate some fluffy and smutty nonsense very once in a while. However, things that I will never tolerate include the exploitation of rape, which is pretty much everything that Diabolik Lovers entails.

Within the first few moments of the pilot episode, we see Yui get pinned down onto a couch and molested by some random teenage boy with hot pink ombre hair. It isn’t sexy to see her struggle, or to see the intensity of the discomfort and fear that she’s feeling as he places his mouth all over her neck whilst tightly pinning her wrists down. It’s disturbing and disquieting.

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This entire scene sets the mood and tone for everything that shall follow suit. Every episode is laced with Yui getting felt up, physically abused, or worse, which is all further exacerbated by the sheer sexiness that the show is trying to pull off when these horrid acts happen. Raping someone is not sexy. Hitting them to make them do whatever you want them to do is not sexy. Bullying them when they disobey you is not sexy. It does not feel sexy and it sure as hell doesn’t look sexy. I can be the first person to admit that I didn’t care for Yui because her damsel-in-distress complex is turned all the way up, which can be sensationally aggravating to watch in a continuous flow.  But after a while, my heart began to ache for her and all I wanted to watch was her to find a way to escape her environment.

Diabolik Lovers is the epitome of what rape culture looks like, regardless of where you reside in the world. When society depicts women being as feeble trash who are good for nothing except being sex objects for their horny little boys. When it shows young girls (target audience for the series) that a boy likes you if he’s hitting you or forcefully kissing you because he’s “too shy” to just tell you he likes you. If a girl chooses to wear a skirt—no matter the length or style—and a cute blouse that makes her look beautiful, then she is labelled as “inviting inappropriate behaviour,” or it is used as justification for her to get assaulted. All of these things, and anything that has complete disregard for women as being human beings and strong-willed, intelligent individuals, are the ridiculous types of notions that perpetuate harmful rape culture. Garbage like Diabolik Lovers is what makes women afraid to speak up about being raped because instead of being shown as the victim, they are shown as the instigators of abuse. Fuck that noise.

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I was raped in my marriage. I can tell you right now that whenever it happened to me, I didn’t walk away feeling like the most beautiful person in the world. I walked away feeling ashamed, dirty, humiliated, and completely broken as a person. I never walked away feeling wanted or loved, just used, abused, and violated. I remember that right up until the moment that my marriage fell apart, I had always felt on some level that this was how a natural and healthy relationship was supposed to be. It didn’t matter if one person wanted to have sex or not. Sex was mandatory for a happy and healthy relationship. Everyone around me always taught me these things. It was in the advice I received from some of my friends and family. It was in every single piece of media I ever consumed growing up (TV shows, books, comics, video games, magazines, etc. no matter the region they stemmed from). Hell, even a lot of rape cases that my brother and my cousins had usually showed the women as being the ones who in one form or another had initiated sexual behaviour and were thus liable for being raped. Most of these cases revolved around the clothes she had worn or the some of the things she enjoyed sexually (fetishes and kinks) or flirtatious conversations. Films would show how a woman would be begging a man to stop touching her, yet by the end she had fallen in love with him and came to view his unwanted advances as a sign of affection. The assault had become endearing. It wasn’t I left the environment that I began to realise what had happened to me, and I finally understood why I felt guilt and ashamed when I had no reason to feel this way.

Diabolik Lovers fetishizes abuse exactly the same way as all of the media I mentioned. In one episode, Yui has a significant lack of appetite brought on by the stress and trauma of being attacked at every corner, not to mention the significant amount of blood loss she has undergone from the vampires constantly feeding on her. When people tell her to eat, she says “no” because she physically is unable to. The same thing happens when people want to touch her or drink her blood. Her saying “no” gets her smacked around or bullied relentlessly, or worse. The fear she felt initially mutates into a sort of numbness. It’s her way of checking out of this tragic reality as a coping method.

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I underwent multiple eating disorders during my period of abuse that spanned ten years. Most of it was from feeling sick, but a lot of it also had to do with making myself less appealing. Then when it became too much, I would pretend to be anywhere else within the confines of my mind as the abuse was occurring because I knew that “living” in the moment would destroy me. Yui is exactly the same. She wants to live, she wants to escape, but knows all too well that the option to do so is utterly impossible for her, so her mind conjures up ways for her to seek her escape in other means.

The men who abuse her are all individuals who have some sort of inferiority complex within themselves that makes them feel like the only way they can be validated is by inflicting pain on another person. It’s the literal control they have over Yui to make them feel self-important, which is a common characteristic in abusers.

Ayato has a significant complex of needing to be the best and the first at everything. Having a bunch of older brothers who may be better than him at doing various things probably made him feel so useless. Shū is always told that he’s a lazy good-for-nothing even though that may not be the case. He’s an anti-social introvert who is extremely apathetic about life. But these misconceptions and verbal abuse he endures from his family has made him create a toxic perspective of himself. Reiji is one who craves a severely disciplined routine and his desire for control seems to be the worst.

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In future episodes, as Yui comes to understand more about the individual boys and the demonic burdens (metaphorically) that they each carry around, she develops a sort of sympathy for their plight. Honestly, it made me further sick to my stomach. These scenes when combined with all of the traumatic experiences she has with this family, is teaching girls that it’s okay to be a victim because A) it means they’re “special,” B) saying “no” means you’re playing hard to get, and C) even though they’re being abused, on some mental level “the boys didn’t mean to do it, they were just upset” or “they had a difficult childhood” so it’s okay in the end.

Where do we draw the line from indulgent, fantastical fiction into unacceptable sexualisation of problematic societal practises? Where do we stop and say: “This is has gone too far” and is promoting an environment that coddles predators while silencing victims and their ability to get justice for crimes committed? When you have shows like Diabolik Lovers, constantly telling us that rapists are just disturbed people with “mental health” problems, particularly when that is not true at all, how the fuck do we hold ourselves accountable for disseminating harmful and poisonous constructs like rape culture and victim-blaming?

It’s simple. When we create thing like this show right here, we fucking don’t. We put on a blind-fold and ignore the ways that we have nurtured a world where forcefully having sex with an individual who doesn’t want it and then claiming “love” or “insanity” or “provocation,” as a defence. We moulded world where such terrible, blatant excuses are not only accepted, but welcomed. And that, my friends, is the fucking problem.

Diabolik Lovers is an offensive, harmful, and severely problematic series—video game, anime, or anything else—that should not be seen by anyone, but particularly young people. People who will watch it and believe that it’s okay for a boy, girl, or non-gendered person to touch them inappropriately, even if its completely unwarranted. A show that will teach them that when they say “no” they’re actually saying “yes, please.” A show that associates mental health illnesses with abusers, rapists, and criminals, thus further spreading a whole different sort of negative stigma and culture. I hated this series with a passion and I cannot and will not ever recommend it to anyone.

0 outta 10.

Episodic Reviews:

Episode 1
Episode 2
Episode 3
Episode 4

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28 thoughts on “Diabolik Lovers & the Poisonous Provocation of Rape Culture – Anime Review

  1. Holy shit, finally someone SAID THAT!
    When I was younger I always fell something wrong with the anime, even if I was a silly stupid girl who thought that abuse was sexy and that weird stuff, there”s always that little voice saying “Hey babe! There’s something REALLY wrong here, don’t ya think?”

    My desire is that Yui became a freaking nun vampire hunter and kill them all, or at least Alucard from Hellsing fill these little shits with bullets until they leak out bullets (maybe I’m a little aggresive but f*ck that).
    That would be a cool plot, right?
    A girl abused by vampires and up becaming a freaking nun vampire-hunter with PTSD. LOL.

    I loved your review. 🙂


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  4. This is very saddening, it is even happening in cartoons, nowadays. Guys need to have more respect for females, the world over. I wrote a post on rape culture today on my website here on WordPress. You have a very valid and legitimate take on things revolving around the subject, yourself.

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    • I totally agree! But I believe everyone should have more respect for women. Even women are very judgmental and harmful towards one another where sex and rape culture is involved, which blows my mind. We should all work together to erase rape culture not perpetuate it. Thanks so much for reading and commenting on my post. Have a good day! 💜

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      • It blows my mind, too. In some countries teachers teach girls that rape is the girl’s fault, and they believe it, fully. #Sad!

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        • Unfortunately, that happens in big Western countries like the US all the time. That’s why rape culture is such a large and disgusting monster, it’s built around this idea that rape is always the victim’s fault to one degree or another, and it makes me sick to my stomach, as well as furious.

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  5. This is quite possibly the best review I’ve read for this anime. It’s a shitfest unlike any other and the blatant sexualisation of rape is just so unacceptable. I can’t imagine what it’s like for victims to come across something like this and how it would make them feel to see one of their worst experiences being exploited in such a demeanour. And you’re absolutely right. Shit like this does contribute to the rise and upkeep of rape culture as well as the constant dehumanisation of victims. It doesn’t just affect women, but also men who are raped by other men, women, or NGC. How often do you see men speaking up about being raped or abused? The society also contributes to this anti-feminist bullshit about men are always monsters when that’s not the case. I’m proud of you for writing this review and shining a very important light on something that many are too frightened to talk about. You are brave and I love you. Keep it up.

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    • Thank you for your comment. Yes!! Men are also terribly dehumanised when it comes to rape. I remember a guy friend of mine (back when I was in HS) talked about what happened to him. He tried to tell his parents, but they wouldn’t believe him because he was a guy. I feel like rape culture has only been further mutated since then and I honestly don’t see a stop to it, at least not with our current trajectory.


  6. My suppressed rant can be summarized by the following points:

    1.) F desi culture and it’s sexist ideology to the ends if the earth.

    2.) There is a severe problem with modern society’s relationship with sexuality. People make these kinds of shows and then say they’re part of a civilized society. All the media does is sell sex in any form, which means people are no different than cave men, despite their claims of having become so amazingly advanced. In the old times, there was a different kind of extreme with sex (oppression), and today, we’re on the other extreme end of the spectrum (zero limits).

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    • I agree with all of this! Growing up in desi culture with its perceptions on sexuality and playing a big part in the blame-name culture made me very angry. Unfortunately, it’s not limited to just desi culture, but is a big issue in all Asian societies. And to see how modern society is de-evolving with their views on sex makes me sick to my stomach, more so when I see how it’s targetted towards younger generation people.

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  7. Thank you for sharing your own story to point out why terrible things like this show shouldn’t happen. I know it’s never easy to open up online, let alone for such a horrific ordeal. You really nailed the point though that this is trash and anyone who likes it should really take a hard look at themselves as to why they think it’s okay. Thank you again for sharing and know you’ve always got support!

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  8. Good (and the appropriate) rating. I’ve also seen a couple of clips and just closed it right away. I’m not surprised that many people like this, but I hope they understand that the message of the show is awful. Right on about everything! & thank you for sharing those personal pieces about yourself in this post. ❤

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  9. Sorry such a horrid thing happened to you. 😦

    I can’t believe this series is so popular to spawn multiple sequels and several adaptations. Some things just defy logic.

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  10. I’m so sorry that you have something as terrible as that happen to you. It makes me both sad and angry at the same time 😢 I am glad that you have at least gotten away out of that relationship. I would not even go anywhere near a piece of crap such as this. It’s exactly like Scott says above here, one has to wonder why there is even a market for something like this. But then again, I guess the world at times is just a really crappy place 😢

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    • There’s a market for tons of disturbing things and it blows my mind. 🤯 Thank you. I’m a lot stronger now and hopefully wiser when it comes to recognising abusers.

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  11. Oh no :(, I’m sorry to here about everything that happened to you. I still can’t believe a series like this or many facets of rape culture exist and I can’t believe there is a market for all of this. *sigh*

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