The 30 Days of Gratitude Challenge: Days 13 to 15 – Seasons, Rejections, & Body Image

I loved the first two questions this time around, as they were relatively easy to answer, but that third one took me deep into parts of myself that I like to avoid thinking about. The challenge is definitely forcing me to find positivity and gratitude in places that I would otherwise hide from. Good job, Challenge-sama.

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Day 13: What season of the year are you most grateful for?

Winter. It is my favourite season ever. Hot chocolates. Spicy crab curries and hearty soups. Long knee-high socks. Snuggly blankets. Scary films (I enjoy watching them in the cold season more than any other time of year). Plus, Winter was the season when I moved into my very first home (where I still reside)!

Day 14: What rejection in life are you most grateful for?

This one occurred earlier this year actually, but it was my very first rejection letter from a publisher. It was for my poetry manuscript. The only reason it was rejected was because it wasn’t micro or flash poetry. However, a rejection is a rejection. It showed me how saddening it can feel, yet it also made me realise that it wasn’t a terrible experience. Now that I ripped it off like a band-aid, I’m ready to keep moving forward and ploughing through future rejections until I finally make it, whether it’s for poetry or genre fiction.

Day 15: What about your body are you most grateful for?

I don’t know how to answer this question. I’ve been battling self-image issues for over a decade now. If I absolutely had to find one thing, I would say my height. I’m a short person, relatively speaking, and for the longest time I hated the fact that I was the shorter human out of everyone I knew. Yet, over the past five years or so, I have come to appreciate my height deficiency very much. The only complaint I have about it now is that it makes finding men’s shoes in my size horridly challenging (I’m a size 5.5 in men’s).

11 thoughts on “The 30 Days of Gratitude Challenge: Days 13 to 15 – Seasons, Rejections, & Body Image

  1. Yay winter! Just wait til you live where it snows though, you may change that (winter is coming an us Norse love a mighty snow) I know that rejection can be hard coming from a parent, but just remember you have a family that is thicker then blood. And I was dead sure you where going to say your hair, but way to own your height, now I’ll just walk over your legs so you’ll be short forever muwhaha.

    • I dunno. I may not want to go anywhere or drive in the snow, but I’d love the napping and excuses for rice porridge, soups, stews, and hot cocoas.

  2. I’m five foot even. Over my almost 60 years it’s been a bit of a mixed bag, but overall I’ve always been quite content with my height. Not so much my weight… so here’s a few nifty advantages I like; I can wear the highest heels I can find and still never be taller than my date. I can walk under things most people have to duck. Okay, I also need a step stool in my own house. Sigh. Because I’ve always been involved with horses, my small size is an advantage in several ways. I like to train, and I am easier on young horses because I weigh less. I can also work with smaller horses – actually down to pony size – again, because I’m small. Of course, I did my time as a galloper, although I decided not to pursue being a jockey. Back when I was young, women just didn’t become jockeys (how things have changed!). Since I am always looking up at people, I can see their nose hairs. I know, that sounds weird, but try this. Someone says, “boy, you’re short.” and you reply “boy, you need to trim your nose hair”. 😉 I could probably think up more…love yourself, dear one, love yourself.

    • Haha, I will have to try that nose hair thing. That sounds fantastically fun haha. I can relate to the heels and never being taller than whomever I’m with and not having to duck. I do climb on the kitchen counters to put away/pull down dishes and things, which is always scary, but i’ve gotten used to it. I used to ride horses and you know, it never occurred to me that it would be easier on the horses! That makes me feel good about being short. I also always felt accomplished when I managed to climb the horse for riding. As a kid I felt if I could climb this big horse then nothing is too difficult lol.

      • Yep, I climb kitchen counters, too which my husband, for some reason, finds hugely amusing. I’m going to say, it keeps you active and physically…not fit exactly but I’m the only person I know who is almost 60 years old and can still climb a tree, dance, climb up on the kitchen counter, etc…LOL.

        • My housemate also laughs at me when I do it. But they’re tall, like almost 6 feet. And I believe it! The only thing that can be difficult is climbing back down without falling.

  3. I’m super short too. It only annoys me when I’m trying to do chores or clean or reach things high up though.

    • Yeah, putting things away or pulling stuff down requires me to get on top of the kitchen counters. That is so scary, lemme tell you. I don’t have step stools because the last one I had my cats were always playing with it and I rarely got to use it.

  4. Day 14 is an important one. When I first started querying, I heard a lot of horror stories about publishers and agents being terrible to people who were submitting to them. My own experience has been the opposite; everyone has been really nice. Even the clearly standard rejection letters are fine. It really made me wonder what some of the people did to earn a more aggressive response. That first rejection is a big step though and gets you moving towards the eventual acceptance. 🙂

    • I was SO terrified to send that first query to a publisher. My best friend had been trying to convince me to send it since January and I didn’t get the nerve to do it until Thanksgiving. The waiting period was the worst, but when it came in, it wasn’t bad at all, and it was such a relief. Conquering that made me even more motivated and less anxious about writing more and really diving into it seriously, so as you said, it’s a huge step and really helps a lot.

      • Absolutely. If anything, I think that the reality is that the wait is the worst part. Once you clear that, the result is a little easier. The eky is to keep pressing on 🙂

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